Dear Girls: Intimate Tales, Untold Secrets and Advice for Living Your Best Life
Author: Ali Wong
Publisher: Canongate Books
Released: April 27th, 2018
Genre: Nonfiction, Memoir/ Biography
Ali Wong’s heartfelt and hilarious letters to her daughters (the two she put to work while they were still in utero), covering everything they need to know in life, like the unpleasant details of dating, how to be a working mom in a male-dominated profession, and how she trapped their dad.
In her hit Netflix comedy special Baby Cobra, an eight-month pregnant Ali Wong resonated so heavily that she became a popular Halloween costume. Wong told the world her remarkably unfiltered thoughts on marriage, sex, Asian culture, working women, and why you never see new mom comics on stage but you sure see plenty of new dads.
The sharp insights and humor are even more personal in this completely original collection. She shares the wisdom she’s learned from a life in comedy and reveals stories from her life off stage, including the brutal singles life in New York (i.e. the inevitable confrontation with erectile dysfunction), reconnecting with her roots (and drinking snake blood) in Vietnam, tales of being a wild child growing up in San Francisco, and parenting war stories. Though addressed to her daughters, Ali Wong’s letters are absurdly funny, surprisingly moving, and enlightening (and disgusting) for all.
This book made me switch from laughing to almost tearing up in just seconds. It is funny and emotional. Ali could talk about her loss and make me cry then make a joke in the next second and I would be cracking up all of the sudden.
I love how genuine she is in writing down her experiences about growing up as Asian American, a comedian, getting married, having miscarriage, being a mother, being a mother AND a woman with an amazing career, a wife, a daughter and being a sister and a friend. I feel like I have seen her whole life in just 214 pages worth of book. But I know Ali Wong has more to share. If she ever come up with a Part 2 of her memoir, I’d buy it.
She’s such a great storyteller. She’s not afraid to just write down every single shit in this book. The Asian in me was like “wow, you guys Asian Americans need to slow down, I’m not ready for this kind of content”. She wrote a lot about sex and making out, hence will only allow her daughters to read this book when they’re 21 haha. Ali also wrote about diarrhea, embarrassing moments and even about having periods. She also shared about her experience as a mother and then understanding her mother’s feelings and life decisions later on. She also discusses about her understanding on generation gaps between 3 different generations of immigrants. How different their life would be from one another but their root will always bound them together. This book is just so wholesome, warm and honest.
I’d highly recommend this book. It’s funny yet very meaningful. It taught me about a lot of things. Most importantly, it teaches me don’t be scared. Life’s all about changes, experimenting, and failing but you’ll be fine. It’s just going to be another embarrassing moment.
Thank you Definitely Books for sending this book in exchange for an honest review. You can find this book in all good bookstores if you don’t already have a copy!